Today’s social media landscape can be a drag.
Between the news, politics, and personal drama, it can be REALLY tough to keep your chin up. Sometimes, it can even feel like a crime to be the one who tries avoid perpetuating the negativity.
I, for one, try to keep my personal feed focused on updates about my family and funny pictures and stories – an effort for which I have been told I’m “uneducated,” “unaware,” or my personal favorite – that I “don’t stand for anything.” I’ll admit that I’ve let comments like these get to me in the past, but over the last few months I’ve come to the realization that the people who made these comments were all generally unhappy. I mean the kind of unhappy that makes any conversation difficult because everything you say starts a rant or an argument.
I think it’s great that we live in a time and place where people have platforms on which to express their feelings, ideas, and opinions, but it has its downfalls.
A 2015 article from news.com/au discusses some studies on the effects our Facebook feeds affect our attitudes and emotions. It says:
“We tend to mirror other people’s emotions, even when these emotions are online…’
“The affect is powerful, and psychologists now believe that our posts have the power to trigger an emotional chain reaction among our friends and followers.”
So whether your feed is full of negative posts by negative people, or positive posts by positive people, the result is that your personal feelings will reflect that dynamic regardless of your outside life.
The scary part is that we CHOOSE what we follow on Facebook – that’s pretty much saying that we are CHOOSING how we want to feel and choosing to feel that way EVERY DAY.
Scary, isn’t it?
Today is the first day #ProjectEmbrace is available and as a Day 1 project, the very first activity for subscribers is a social media cleanup. It’s an activity that calls for participants to unfollow (not unfriend) the people and pages that provoke negative thought or feelings of inadequacy.
To offset this action, I thought it might be a good idea to suggest a few pages to follow that are centered around self-acceptance, body positivity, empowerment, and confidence. These are some of my personal favorites.
Three Key Life has a special place in my heart because I actually went to Elementary, Junior High, and High School with the founder, Jeffon Seely. “JJ” as we used to call him is a speaker, author, and coach with a mission to “Feed the spirit, inspire the mind, and strengthen the body.”
This Facebook page is full of motivational videos and articles that combine Jeffon’s knowledge and experiences to inspire and empower viewers to remember who they are and reach for more.
Robin Sharma has been ranked as one of the Top 5 Leadership Gurus in the world. He speaks on personal mastery and leadership through various events and summits and his books include The Leader Who Had No Title: A Modern Fable on Real Success in Business and in Life, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny, and The Greatness Guide: 101 Lessons for Making What’s Good at Work and in Life Even Better. Often time, he is used by large companies and schools to deliver his empowering messages. His Facebook page is full of inspiring messages, videos and articles meant to inspire his followers to reach their full potential.
This page is one of my personal favorites right now – mostly because I remember what it felt like to look in the mirror after my first son was born and wonder if I would ever look “normal” again. The 4th Trimester Body Project is a group that travels around, hosting events and taking photos of real mothers and telling their stories. This project exists as a tool for society – to bring awareness to the reality of what motherhood looks like – and that it’s not usually shown in photoshopped magazine covers or online stories.
I LOVE this woman’s mission! She is all about self-help for people who “wouldn’t be caught dead” reading a self-help book. She is an award winning writer and columnist (for OPRAH) and her page is all about boosting happiness and success. Her page is full of helpful articles and images that are inspiring, informative, and (most importantly) not too cheesy. You can also find her books on the Kindle Reading App . The next book on my list is How to Be Happy, Dammit: A Cynic’s Guide to Spiritual Happiness.
“You don’t have to be wordy to be profound.”
This page by life coach Christine Morgan is full of simple wisdom and affirmations that, while simple, are also thought provoking. Some of her messages include “Be Fully Present,” “Celebrate the Weekend,” and “Make Someone’s Day.” Sometimes the shorter the message, the more impact it has on us and Christine reflects that perfectly on this page.